Introduction
Every child deserves love and attention, care and guidance. Some people think they can be parents but then they realise they weren’t meant to be a parent.
The Pain of being Unwanted
Some children grow up in homes where they are treated as burdens rather than blessings. Instead of love they receive neglect. Instead of guidance they are left to fend for themselves. Some endure emotional, physical and even verbal abuse. Others are forced to take on responsibilities beyond their years, acting as caretakers for parents who should be taking care of them. Some choose to do it but they still need care and love even if they choose to become a carer for a parent.
These children often feel like they don’t belong, questioning their worth and existence. In moments of loneliness they may ask “Why was I even born?” or “If my own parents don’t love me, who will?” These questions are heart-breaking, yet they reflect the reality of so many young lives.
Some have another story of why they don’t feel loved it may be because of abandonment during a young age and that may never leave but EVERY CHILD DESERVES LOVE.
Turning to God in the Midst of pain
The lack of parental love leads to a deeper search for meaning. Some turn to God, hoping to find the love and acceptance they never received at home. But even in faith, they may wrestle with tough questions:
- “Why did God give me parents who don’t love me?”
- “If God is loving, why does He allow children to suffer?”
- “Does God care about me even if my parents don’t?”
These are heavy, painful questions, and while no single answer can erase the hurt, many find comfort in the belief that God sees their suffering. Scripture reminds us that even if earthly parents fail, there is a heavenly Father who never abandons His children. Psalm 27:10 says, “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
The Strength of the Forgotten
Children who grow up with parental love often develop a resilience they never asked for. They learn to survive, to navigate life on their own, and sometimes, to break the cycle of neglect by becoming the loving parents they never had. Their pain shapes them, but it doesn’t define them.
Many of these children grow into adults who offer kindness to other because they know what it’s like to go without it. They mostly become people who help other as they know how other may feel such as mentors, teachers and caregivers. This proves that even when the cycle starts off bad it can then lead people to make sure that doesn’t happen to others.
A call to compassion
We all have responsibilities to these children. If parents fail, others must step in – whether it’s a teacher offering encouragement or another sort of sanctuary for the child, a neighbour providing a safe space or a friend to listen and help with problems. We may not be able to erase their past, but we can rewrite their future with care and help.
If you know a child struggling in a home without love, be a source of kindness. Let them know they are seen, valued, and worthy of love. And if you are someone who grew up without parental love, know this: You are not alone. You are not forgotten. You are loved.
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